Friday, March 13, 2009



Lloyd fell again this morning. He had gotten out of bed and was on his way into the bathroom when he went down. I don't think he actually had gotten his balance. As he is so much larger than I, there is no way that I can effectively help him when this sort of thing happens. Eventually, he was able to pull himself up, using the fixtures, but it was not easy.

His hands are all swollen this morning, also. He complained about the pain and swelling before he got out of bed. Catching himself certainly did not help. I asked if he would like me to get the heating pad to lay on his hands when he got off the throne. "It doesn't do any good," he said, waving away the very thought. It took him five minutes of working to get his wedding ring off his finger. It left a deep depression between knuckles. I soothed some lotion onto his hands because the skin was very dry.

Recently, I've been looking at nursing homes. It's depressing, but I know the time is coming that he will have to have 24 hour care outside our home. He will not go willingly. He refuses to go to a Senior Center for day care, and thinks that having Jimmy come in to help is a waste of money. Lloyd won't even discuss signing power of attorney for medical matters to make things easier. Speaking to a lawyer the other day, I learned that I will have to go through the court if Lloyd won't voluntarily sign the POA.

This all sounds depressing, and it is. However, I've been praying for help in these matters, and I forgot the adage, "If you pray for patience, God will send you tribulations."

The word of the day for March 13, 2009 is "prehension" — Pronunciation: \prē-'hen(t)-shən\
Function: noun
Date: circa 1828
1: the act of taking hold, seizing, or grasping. 2 a: mental understanding :
comprehension. b: apprehension by the senses.

Our quote for the day is from Norman Mailer (b. 1923), U.S. author. Stephen Rojack, in An American Dream, ch. 5, Dial (1965):

I had a quick grasp of the secret to sanity—it had become the ability to hold the maximum of impossible combinations in one’s mind.




  1. Must be such a worry for you, sending out good thoughts.

  2. These are very worrying times for people.I do hope something is solved in your favour.Prayers for you and yours always and I hope Lloyd is not in too much pain.Try have a nice week/end.Take Care God Bless Kath xx

  3. third attempt.
    Sorry to read about Lloyds fall. It is so hard for you both...remember that my prayers and love are winging there way towards you.

    Love Sybil xx

  4. That's awful news, just awful. I'll pray for you and Lloyd.

  5. Is he confused? A lot of people will not talk about things that may need to be done because they have no idea how sick they are. You may not want to put a loved one in a nursing home, it is a very hard thing to do but you get to the point that it is impossible mentally and physically. It can not be done by one person 24/7.


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